Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race, Reni Eddo-Lodge
As so often with books that have enraged certain types, this isn’t the screed against white people that folks would have you believe. The essay of the title was written to explain that the author, Reni Eddo-Lodge, is tired of explaining prejudice to people not equipped to listen. She acknowledged in the original piece and in this book that that doesn’t mean all white people, and it certainly hasn’t meant that she’s stopped talking about race. But she’s given herself permission to avoid doing Racism 101 every five seconds, and more power to her — it’s easy enough to Google that shit, people. Whenever you have a minority identity, there’s questions you get asked and comments you have to hear that just recur like clockwork. I refuse to go back to my last hairdresser because I heard that tape starting with regards to my sexuality: “But have you ever tried going out with a man?” It’s tiring, and I can imagine it’s much more so when your difference is visible, when you can never choose whether it even has the chance of becoming a topic of conversation.
That said, this whole book is a way for Reni Eddo-Lodge to talk to white people about race — if we’re willing to listen. It’s UK focused, which I think was very much needed: a lot of the narrative online focuses on racism against African-Americans, and it’s different here in the UK… though, after reading this book, I have to admit it’s not as different as wishful thinking imagined. A lot of the problems with institutional racism are the same, and though we may have fewer shootings, that seems more likely to be because we have fewer armed police officers than because our attitudes are markedly different.
It’s very much worth reading this, even if you think you’re pretty up to date and in the know. There’s history I had no idea of, attitudes that are alive and well which I didn’t know were still considered acceptable, and overall, further to go than I thought. For that reason, this isn’t an easy read (though it was easy in the sense of being well-written and easy to follow) — and I sense that Eddo-Lodge was still pulling her punches for white people’s sake, even so.
That kind of thing you mentioned about the hairdresser is just so rude! Why should you have to ‘try’ to suit other people! Gah! Things like racism and all kinds of bigotry get me so wound up.
Indeed! And twice now hairdressers have asked me if I’m “really” married. What?!
Great review! This one’s been on my radar for a while so it’s about time I picked it up. Glad to hear you enjoyed it and, like you said, we’re definitely in need of more UK-focused discussions on battling racism.
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It’s a good one!
I’m adding this to my TBR, Nikki! I think it’s not all that difficult to work on being a better (white / straight / whatever else) person – but it’s nice to be able to find books that are honest, and maybe a little bit uncomfortable to read about subjects like racism or other ‘phobia’ that are so apparent in our society.
Great review!
Indeed! Definitely agree. This one was a very good read for me in particular since it focused on the UK perspective — something I find lacking online.